Here are top 10 list of negative effects of smoking:

We all know that smoking is bad for us, but have you considered how bad it is?

Here are top 10 list of negative effects of smoking:

1.      Coughing: After a not predetermined time being a smoker, you will begin to experience smokers cough, because your body uses this as a way to try and get rid of the toxins you inhale while smoking.

2.      Yellow Teeth: many smokers when they realize the state of their smile, that have gone from bright white to almost yellow stop smiling all that much, or try to hide their teeth while smiling.

3.      Trouble with blood circulation: after contaminating your blood for a period of time with the smoke you inhale and that gets into your blood stream, your blood will not circulate as freely in your body as it used to, and your arteries will begin to clog. The hands and feet will be the first to get their blood flow lowered , and you will begin to experience cold hands and feet.

4.      Lessened glowing of your skin: a healthy skin has a natural glow about it, but with the clogged arteries, the lessened blood flow will slowly make your skin greyer and more pale than it used to be.

5.      Ugly yellow fingertips: the smoke that several times gets in contact with your skin at the fingertips is slowly going to turn the fingers on the hand you hold the cigarette with into ugly looking yellow fingers.

6.      Lessened ability to smell the lovely flowers: well maybe you don’t really care about the smell of flowers but another negative effect of smoking is that rather shortly after becoming a smoker, your taste buds and your ability to smell will be severally worse than before. The good news however is that they return rather quickly after quitting.

7.      Lessened lung capacity: your overall fitness levels are determined largely by the capacity of your lungs and a negative effects of smoking is slowly deteriorating lung capacity. When I smoked I had a test as I were doing sport at a serious level, but had collapsed during a track test and were told my lung capacity were all below par for my age group.

8.      Lower energy: when you smoke your immune system never relaxes for very long. Immediately when smoke gets into your body the immune system starts fighting it and is therefore working on overdrive so to speak. That extra use of energy has to come from somewhere and it does. The energy used is taken from your overall energy levels along with that the lesser lung capacity reduces your body’s oxygen intake which again reduces your energy levels so you can expect lower energy level overall from smoking.

9.      Bad breath: often times when I were a smoker I would wake up dry mouthed and my girlfriend refused to kiss me because of my bad breath. This point should require no further explanation.

10.  Less oxygen for your brain: lower oxygen in your blood also causes the brain to get lesser oxygen than it needs to function optimally. This may cause you to have a worse than average ability to focus on things and it may also cause dizzy spells.

These are just some of the more obvious negative effects of smoking that your body suffers under been a smoker, in the long term you risk severe blood clogs, lung cancer and heart diseases will dramatically increase the longer you are a smoker.

No matter what you think smoking kills slowly but surely and along the way it deteriorates the quality of life.

NB:(A friend shared this with me).

The 10 Habits that Keep Marriages Strong

I found the below principles very interesting and educative for those of us married and soon to be married. I know relationships go through some trying times but I also believe God gave us principles to help us find our way through those times. The below ten principles  if practiced, will not only make our relationships heaven on earth unions but will also put smiles on the faces of our partners even when there is every need to be angry.

The 10 Habits that Keep Marriages Strong

The key to wedded bliss isn't over-the-top romance, but these surprisingly simple practices you can do to stay - or fall back - in love with your partner. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.

1

Not trying to change each other
Maybe you wish he folded his socks, or that he would chat it up with your friends without prompting. But, his inability to notice hair in the sink may stem from the laid-back personality that drew you to him in the first place. "One of the things we see with happy couples is that they know their partner's differences, and have pretty much stopped trying to change the other person," says Darren Wilk, "Rather than trying to fight their partner's personality style, they instead focus on each other's strengths."

2

Framing your demands as favors
Whether you want him to unload the dishwasher more often or pay closer attention to the kids, your partner will be more likely to change his behavior if he feels like he'll get relationship brownie points. "Throw it out there like a favor. Present it like 'here is the recipe for what will make me happy,' because everyone wants to make their partner feel happy," says Wilk. "When you present your needs, present them as what you do want rather than what you don't want." Instead of saying, "I hate when you have to have everything scheduled," try saying, "I would love to have a day where we can just be spontaneous.”

3    

Vocalizing your apprecation
Giving your partner positive reinforcement sounds like a no-brainer, but couples often forget to do it. "Relationship expert Gottman's research found that in everyday life, happy couples have 20 positive moments - such as a shared look, compliment, or affectionate touch - to every negative moment," says Wilk. Tell him something positive three times a day, and be specific. Instead of saying, "You're a good dad," tell him why. "You're a good dad because you helped our daughter with that puzzle, which I never would have had the patience to do."

4

 Focusing on the positive
"Unhappy couples are stuck in a negative state of mind," says Wilk. "You will always find what you look for. If you look for stuff that bugs you and that your partner is doing wrong, you will find it every day. If you look at what your partner is doing it right, you'll find it everyday." It's a choice to flip your mindset, so when you find yourself getting annoyed, visualize something he does that makes your heart flutter to halt the negative thought circuit.

5

 Taking trips down memory lane
"Happy couples tend to rewrite history by glossing over the bad stuff and focusing on the happy times," says Wilk. By reliving memories out loud to your partner, it actually changes your mindset, and how you view him and think about your relationship. Try this exercise whenever your feel your relationship needs a boost: Go over the highlights of when you were first dating, or rehearse the best moments of your relationship (such as the day you had an impromptu picnic in the park during your lunch hour, or that surprise anniversary date he took you on) to uncover buried memories.

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 Never siding with the enemy
"Sometimes what affair-proofs a relationship is simply being there when your partner needs to vent, and having their back without trying to fix the problem," says Wilk. "People want someone to listen to them." The key is to be supportive, and never take the side of the person he's venting about - even if you can see where that person is coming from. For example, if he is upset that his boss took away a contract and gave it to someone else in the office, now is not the time to say, "Well, maybe you didn't put your best effort in." Right now he needs his feelings validated, and to hear you say, "That must have been really hard." Happy couples know when to bite their tongues.

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Not getting too comfortable
Trust, security, and commitment are key elements in any relationship, but having them doesn't mean you can treat your relationship as rock-solid, and stop trying. "Relationships are a fragile ecosystem, and that's why there is a 50 percent divorce rate," says Wilk. "Happy couples keep dating, telling each other they look great, and doing things together."

 Having rituals of connection
"It's not only about having a date night, but happy couples seem to do a lot of mundane things together," says Wilk. "They have little habits that they decide to do together, whether it be sitting down to pay the bills once a month or folding laundry." We say, anything to make that pile of dirty clothes feel more manageable.

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Knowing your partner's calls for attention
Happy couples are mindful of those little moves their partners do for attention. When Gottman's team studied 120 newlyweds in his Love Lab, they discovered that couples who stayed married six years later were paying attention to these bids for connection 86 percent of the time, compared to only 33 percent of the time for those who later divorced. So look out for the little things, and respond to his need to connect. Like if you're grocery shopping and he casually mentions that he hasn't had Fruit Loops since he was a kid, throw them in the cart for him to show that you care.

 Doing the little things
"When it comes to relationship satisfaction, you can't just ride on the big things like, 'I don't drink, I pay the bills, I don't beat you, we went to Hawaii last year,'" says Wilk. "This stuff is not really what keeps couples happy in their daily lives." What really matters is all the small stuff that adds up, such as being there for each other when one needs to vent, or noticing when he needs a hug, or making him his favorite meal just because. "It's also giving up on the idea that you have to feel in love all the time. Marriage is about trust and commitment and knowing each other," says Wilk. "That's what love is."

many married women inadvertently lure their men into adultery

When I tell married women whose husbands are unfaithful to them that I blame them for their husbands unfaithfulness they think am harsh. But many in all my years of counseling, I've observed that many married woman inadvertently lure their men into adultery. How you may ask:

1. Before you got married you were dressing in such a way that it was impossible for him to look elsewhere. Now you're married you dress like an old woman in the village and you expect him to understand that he's married to you, no he won't.  Please start dressing properly if you want to secure your marriage.

2. Before marriage your make up, hair style, finger and toe nails were polished, but now you don't even remember to clean them up and you want him not to look elsewhere. Looking good doesn't cost much, why increase my prayer points when you can save me the trouble of praying for your marriage by cleaning up.

3. Before marriage you were an apostle of home neatness, in fact you trumpeted how it is impossible for you not to keep your house clean. But now you're married, the pot is in the parlor, even to fix the bed sheet is a problem and yet you blame the devil for your husband’s infidelity. Don't you know that neatness attracts, he will definitely go to an apartment where he can drink water and be sure of not contacting a virus.

4. Before marriage you were always calling and sending him texts but now you're married you have stopped. Ahaaaa this is a leeway for that lady to steal him away from you because she will always show concern. Since men go where they are celebrated I am sure you know where he will go.

5. Before marriage you took care of your weight but now it's history. You have added up and unfortunately you're doing nothing about it and you expect him to understand. He will only understand the jaw dropping chic in his office who takes her time to go to gym and watch her weight by been disciplined. Watch your weight, he may not be saying it now but mark my word the day you will catch him with another woman your weight issue will be an alibi which he would use against you.

Tomorrow I will share 5 other major points from my unpublished work on relationship you need to take cognizance of so you can keep your marriage. I am tired of hearing marriages  breaking up. The percentage of marriages breaking up is frightening and I want you to save your own.

Have a blistering day!!!!!

5 Important issues regarding your marriage:

1. It could be she feels unappreciated. Many men are very guilty of this. They find it difficult to open their mouths and tell their wife's how much they appreciate her ability to keep the home front tight in his absence. Once a woman feels her husband is not or doesn't care about her effort to sustain the home front, she feels been taking for granted. I don't know whether some men need to borrow mouths to tell their wife's how much he appreciates her work, dress, hairdo and cooking. If you want your wife to love you mad tell her you appreciate her, tell her you're proud of her and see the wonders.

2. It could be your attitude stinks. Many men have attitudinal issues they won't deal with yet they want their wife's to respect them. How will your wife respect you when you're too full of yourself, you never accept your mistakes or take personal responsibility for your home, you duck responsibility, it's all about you, you, and more of you. Your wife can eat grass you don't care. Many men are dealing with these issues and they expect their wife to go over the board in showing him respect. Tell me how you will be struggling with issues you're not willing to let go and yet expect your wife to be at her best. Why not be man enough to change today and let’s see how your wife will be dissatisfied.

3. It could be you're not into her yet. How do I mean? Isn't it crazy how many men think they know their wife's and yet they do not even know her favorite meal, shoe size? Some men don't even discuss their wife's jobs and bizness with them and yet they expect the innocent woman to be at her best. Ask your wife about her job, her fantasies and trappings today. Discuss it and stop carrying about as if you're her pay master. She didn't force you to marry her and even if she did, why won't show simple interest in her affairs. When last did you visit her in the kitchen to check up on what's cooking, do you even know her friends or colleagues? Show some interest today, it doesn't cost a thing.

4. When last did you celebrate your wife privately, I don't want to say publicly because I may be going the extreme but do you know celebrating your wife both publicly and privately does wonders. It increases her confidence level and guess what- her respect for you soars too. I find it disgusting when I hear how so many men discuss about their wife's before friends. It beats my imagination. You run her down and yet expect her to see you and smile, no sir you're mistaken she won't. Celebrate your wife at least you won't spend money doing that. Kiss your wife when you wake up from sleep,  kiss her before your children and friends, tell the world how your wife is the next best thing that happened to you after salvation. Women are smitten by words and today I command you to smite your wife positively now with words. Give her a pet name. Treat her like a queen and not like a rag. When she dresses up tell her you have lost control by virtue of her dressing. Try it and see the magic.

5. Sex is an important issue in marriage. Many men refuse to be real men in this area. They think sex is a pressure reliving experience that they embark upon when they under pressure. No sir. Sex is for the pleasure of both of you. You're a selfish man if all you do is satisfy yourself at the expense of your wife. Many women are suffering in silence; they are not talking because society will brand them as loose women. But if you want to sustain your wife's interest and respect for you please satisfy her. Don't be shy to ask your wife what makes her pleasurable. Don't be ashamed of seeking counsel. I remember when I got married I had to ask questions both from my wife and friends on how I can blow my wife away. You man acting as if you owe your wife no explanation please she's suffering in silence ask her what you can do to help her.

Finally, I wish above all things that your marriage will prosper morally and your children will see an example of a godly union in you two.

Tomorrow I will share 5 other keys to making your union last forever in an age of divorce.

My name is Chidi Lemchi

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