many married women inadvertently lure their men into adultery

When I tell married women whose husbands are unfaithful to them that I blame them for their husbands unfaithfulness they think am harsh. But many in all my years of counseling, I've observed that many married woman inadvertently lure their men into adultery. How you may ask:

1. Before you got married you were dressing in such a way that it was impossible for him to look elsewhere. Now you're married you dress like an old woman in the village and you expect him to understand that he's married to you, no he won't.  Please start dressing properly if you want to secure your marriage.

2. Before marriage your make up, hair style, finger and toe nails were polished, but now you don't even remember to clean them up and you want him not to look elsewhere. Looking good doesn't cost much, why increase my prayer points when you can save me the trouble of praying for your marriage by cleaning up.

3. Before marriage you were an apostle of home neatness, in fact you trumpeted how it is impossible for you not to keep your house clean. But now you're married, the pot is in the parlor, even to fix the bed sheet is a problem and yet you blame the devil for your husband’s infidelity. Don't you know that neatness attracts, he will definitely go to an apartment where he can drink water and be sure of not contacting a virus.

4. Before marriage you were always calling and sending him texts but now you're married you have stopped. Ahaaaa this is a leeway for that lady to steal him away from you because she will always show concern. Since men go where they are celebrated I am sure you know where he will go.

5. Before marriage you took care of your weight but now it's history. You have added up and unfortunately you're doing nothing about it and you expect him to understand. He will only understand the jaw dropping chic in his office who takes her time to go to gym and watch her weight by been disciplined. Watch your weight, he may not be saying it now but mark my word the day you will catch him with another woman your weight issue will be an alibi which he would use against you.

Tomorrow I will share 5 other major points from my unpublished work on relationship you need to take cognizance of so you can keep your marriage. I am tired of hearing marriages  breaking up. The percentage of marriages breaking up is frightening and I want you to save your own.

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5 Important issues regarding your marriage:

1. It could be she feels unappreciated. Many men are very guilty of this. They find it difficult to open their mouths and tell their wife's how much they appreciate her ability to keep the home front tight in his absence. Once a woman feels her husband is not or doesn't care about her effort to sustain the home front, she feels been taking for granted. I don't know whether some men need to borrow mouths to tell their wife's how much he appreciates her work, dress, hairdo and cooking. If you want your wife to love you mad tell her you appreciate her, tell her you're proud of her and see the wonders.

2. It could be your attitude stinks. Many men have attitudinal issues they won't deal with yet they want their wife's to respect them. How will your wife respect you when you're too full of yourself, you never accept your mistakes or take personal responsibility for your home, you duck responsibility, it's all about you, you, and more of you. Your wife can eat grass you don't care. Many men are dealing with these issues and they expect their wife to go over the board in showing him respect. Tell me how you will be struggling with issues you're not willing to let go and yet expect your wife to be at her best. Why not be man enough to change today and let’s see how your wife will be dissatisfied.

3. It could be you're not into her yet. How do I mean? Isn't it crazy how many men think they know their wife's and yet they do not even know her favorite meal, shoe size? Some men don't even discuss their wife's jobs and bizness with them and yet they expect the innocent woman to be at her best. Ask your wife about her job, her fantasies and trappings today. Discuss it and stop carrying about as if you're her pay master. She didn't force you to marry her and even if she did, why won't show simple interest in her affairs. When last did you visit her in the kitchen to check up on what's cooking, do you even know her friends or colleagues? Show some interest today, it doesn't cost a thing.

4. When last did you celebrate your wife privately, I don't want to say publicly because I may be going the extreme but do you know celebrating your wife both publicly and privately does wonders. It increases her confidence level and guess what- her respect for you soars too. I find it disgusting when I hear how so many men discuss about their wife's before friends. It beats my imagination. You run her down and yet expect her to see you and smile, no sir you're mistaken she won't. Celebrate your wife at least you won't spend money doing that. Kiss your wife when you wake up from sleep,  kiss her before your children and friends, tell the world how your wife is the next best thing that happened to you after salvation. Women are smitten by words and today I command you to smite your wife positively now with words. Give her a pet name. Treat her like a queen and not like a rag. When she dresses up tell her you have lost control by virtue of her dressing. Try it and see the magic.

5. Sex is an important issue in marriage. Many men refuse to be real men in this area. They think sex is a pressure reliving experience that they embark upon when they under pressure. No sir. Sex is for the pleasure of both of you. You're a selfish man if all you do is satisfy yourself at the expense of your wife. Many women are suffering in silence; they are not talking because society will brand them as loose women. But if you want to sustain your wife's interest and respect for you please satisfy her. Don't be shy to ask your wife what makes her pleasurable. Don't be ashamed of seeking counsel. I remember when I got married I had to ask questions both from my wife and friends on how I can blow my wife away. You man acting as if you owe your wife no explanation please she's suffering in silence ask her what you can do to help her.

Finally, I wish above all things that your marriage will prosper morally and your children will see an example of a godly union in you two.

Tomorrow I will share 5 other keys to making your union last forever in an age of divorce.

My name is Chidi Lemchi

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